When parents divorce, they’re usually pretty concerned about the custody of their children — and a lot of parents start the divorce process wanting sole custody.

There are several reasons why this may not be the best idea. Consider the following:

  1. You may be acting out of anger at your spouse. If your desire for full custody is less about your ex-spouse’s parenting skills and more about punishing your ex for their bad behavior in your marriage, you’re acting on the wrong impulses.
  2. You may be acting out of fear. Faced with the fact that their children won’t be in their household 100% of the time, a lot of parents worry that the other parent won’t step up and handle their children’s needs appropriately.
  3. The conflicts can be disastrous for your children. Studies have long indicated that parental divorce is less harmful to kids than parental conflict. If your divorce evolves into a high-conflict custody battle, your kids may be exposed to stress that leaves them with lifelong consequences.
  4. You may lose control of the situation. When you embark on a custody battle and are seeking many concessions from your ex, you’re probably going to end up in court. That means that a judge will ultimately make the call. You can end up with results that you don’t like — and that don’t really work for your family.

Like other states, Florida puts an emphasis on doing whatever is in the best interests of the child, not the parents — so you have to keep that in mind throughout your negotiations with your ex. Working with a Florida family law attorney with experience in these situations can help you find a solution that’s better for your children.