We understand that divorce can be stressful. If your spouse filed, you may not have wanted to split up in the first place. Even if you filed, you may be worried about what the future will look like once you end your marriage.
The decisions that you make during the divorce process can absolutely impact that future. It’s important to have a plan and to know what you want in life — and how you can work toward it.
The role of rediscovery and growth
For many people, divorce can present them with a rediscovery phase. Before you were married, who were you? What did you love? What goals did you have?
Often, you’ll find that couples say they had to give a lot of these things up to be married. They stopped enjoying hobbies, they gave up life goals for stability and they settled down. It’s not that there’s anything wrong with that, but you can positively view divorce as a chance to get back into these things you used to love.
Additionally, it can be a season of growth. If nothing else, you’ve learned what you don’t want in life. The relationship didn’t work. How can this knowledge shape your future? Overall, the goal is to focus on the positive opportunities that this change represents.
This also applies to gray divorce
Gray divorce is on the rise, and the good news is that this outlook can apply at any age. In fact, one common reason for gray divorce is that older couples discover they want different things for their golden years. They don’t want to feel like they are wasting these important years embracing a life that isn’t fulfilling. Even if you’ve been together for decades, you may find that divorce gives you the freedom to live the way you really desire.
Working through the legal process
How you divide assets, time with your children, or retirement accounts, along with many other crucial decisions, can help you work through the legal process to chase the future you want. You need to know about all of the options that you have.